Some divorcing couples find themselves wavering after the legal process begins. When that happens, at Gaydos Duffer, P.C., we find it a good practice to recommend counseling. If a couple has invested time into another person and a marriage, especially if the couple has children, it seems prudent for them to try at least one or two counseling sessions to see if it their problem is a communication issue that can be resolved, or if the problems go deeper and divorce is the only real choice.
What to Expect from Counseling?
A counselor will typically talk to a couple about how they communicate, how are the intimate parts of their relationship, are there outside influencers? Do they agree on child-rearing issues? When do they fight and how do they fight? The counselor will get a comprehensive profile of each individual and how the two of them function in a relationship.
It generally gives the couple insight into how they relate to each other. For example, maybe the wife will say to herself, “Gee. I am really acting like my mom here. I want to change that.” Sometimes, awareness alone can change the relationship.
Of course, there are many times when the couple discovers they will never be on the same page again, and dissolving their marriage is in the best interest of them both. They at least can say to themselves that they tried counseling and it just didn’t work.
Often, the counseling can turn into divorce counseling. It may not have prevented the divorce, but it can help the two part on a better basis and have what may be referred to as a successful divorce. It can also help them learn how to co-parent in a really healthy way.
Contact Gaydos Duffer, P.C. for Recommendations
At Gaydos Duffer, P.C., we have a referral list of counselors that we trust. These are people we know and feel are comprehensive and kind, but also direct. They are professionals that we know have helped people be successful. The counselors help the couple determine if divorce is the right decision, or if they should give their marriage another chance.
For help with your questions about divorce, contact us at Gaydos Duffer, P.C. We can help you through the divorce process in the most economic and amicable way possible.